Secrets To A Successful Marriage

Secret #1

Be faithful to the house of God.

We don’t just go to church-We ARE the Church

 

Secret #2

Be faithful in your tithe, offerings & giving of alms.

“Honor the Lord with your possessions, and with the firstfruits of all your increase; so your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will overflow with new wine”                  (Proverbs 3:9–10).

This is about our needs, not God’s.   God needs our offerings far less than we need the spiritual strength and blessings that come through obedience to this law.

 

Secret #3

Be good to the Pastor (and his family) that God has put in your life.

“And now, friends, we ask you to honor those leaders who work so hard for you, who have been given the responsibility of urging and guiding you along in your obedience. Overwhelm them with appreciation and love” ( I Thes 5:12-13 The Message).

 

Secret #4

Take responsibility for your own actions, no matter what your spouse is doing.

Commit yourself to doing the right things: be kind, patient, forgiving, admit when you are wrong, etc…

Secret # 5

Focus on your spouse’s strengths rather than their weaknesses.

The way to be part of a winning team in marriage is to bring out the best in your spouse.

 

Secret #6

Praise in public and praise in private. 

Loving couples use every opportunity to cast each other in the best light.

 

Secret #7

The grass is greenest where you water it.

Put your energy into making yourself and your marriage better.  Quit looking at what’s on the other side of the fence.

 

Secret #8

Change your marriage, change yourself. 

Be the change you want to see.  It’s YOU changing that has the greatest impact on YOUR EXPERIENCE of your marriage AND it’s YOU changing that is the single most important thing you can do to motivate your spouse to change.

 

 

Secret #9

Learn to Resolve Your Conflicts

Negotiate your differences, talk and don’t yell, cool off first if you have to,  name calling or putdowns are not allowed and NEVER say the word  “divorce.”

 

Secret # 10

 Have fun together!

So often, the busyness of everyday life takes a priority over enjoying one another. It’s okay to actually schedule fun time together so that it doesn’t get pushed aside.